Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Insecure Writers Support Group- Can We Get a Little Security Here?

Happy Insecure Writers Support Group Wednesday (yes, it's only Tuesday, but I'm really paranoid about getting busy and missing these things.) 

I was just flogging my poor, tired brain for a topic for this month's post, staring at the title of the group, trying to dredge up my insecurities and coming up empty handed.  Now don't get me wrong, I have lots of insecurities-  it's just that none of them jumped to their feet, arms in the air shouting "Ooh, ooh, me! Pick me!"

And so, my newest insecurity was born:  the fear that maybe I'm feeling less insecure than I should be.  You heard right- insecure about not feeling (particularly) insecure.

So my question this month is this- how do you know when you are the appropriate level of confident? I certainly don't want to come off as one of those snobbish know-it-alls (and I'd like to, you know, keep improving.)  But on the other hand, I don't want to be the one whimpering in the corner and rocking while I whisper words of discouragement to myself.  (And we've all seen both, haven't we?)

But when it's you, how do you know?

Maybe I just need to pull out a mirror and repeat the mantra: It's okay to be confident in yourself!

 A perfect fall picture:)
(Next time can we talk about my irrational fear of scarecrows?)


  1. I wish I could answer your question about an appropriate level of confidence. Mine is still a pendulum which swings from highs to lows. But I love your scarecrow quote. It's definitely something that should be repeated until believed. :)

  2. Aww thanks. I hear you on the pendulum :) Best of luck!

  3. Insecure about not being insecure - that's original!
    Confidence with awareness that all things can be improved is a good place to be. Without a measure of belief, we'll never accomplish anything.
    And since you might not know - your word verification is on.

  4. Insecure that you're not insecure enough... that's awesome. I'm having a tough time coming up with a topic for tomorrow too but I'd never be able to pull this one off.

  5. Hmmm... That's a new one. :)

    I think it's important to remember confidence and arrogance are not the same thing. It's okay to believe in yourself and your talent, and you shouldn't feel bad about that.

  6. Great quote! I think fluctuating confidence and insecurity is part of the life of a writer. Probably because we are constantly putting ourselves up for rejection and disappointment. Maybe that's why the highs are so good though!

  7. Greetings from IWSG! I think too much confidence is a red flag (like those awful American Idol contestants...:), and if you don't believe in your work then no one else will, but it's so hard to try and stay somewhere in the middle!

  8. Hi Kaye, thanks for the visit and the encouragement. I know what you mean about confidence. Uh oh, if I'm over confident, I must not know what I'm doing ...
    Oh be still you awful voices and let us work.

    P.S. I would never throw anything at you. I know I have issues with commas, and six grammer books later, I still have issues.

  9. I'm still not at the point where I have any confidence in my writing but I think it's great that you do. Slap me if you ever see me whining though, ok? :)

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    2. Do the same for me please? Thanks for stopping by! (And I am NOT anonymous, blogspot, not anonymous at all!!!)

  10. That. Was funny. I mean, totally get what you're saying. Insecure about not being insecure enough. How many times do we add our insecurities to the pile before we get to be confident? I have no idea because this is my first week, and I'm so insecure that I signed up for this group when Alex started it a year ago, but this is my first post ;-)
    Thanks for your words of encouragement.
    Tina @ Life is Good

  11. It's definitely ok to feel confident in yourself!


I'd love to hear your musings :)